Comments on: The 7 Stages of Crack Cocaine Use http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/ news and info about homelessness and related issues in Greensboro, NC Sun, 20 May 2012 02:36:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: K.A.R http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182577 K.A.R Sun, 20 May 2012 02:36:23 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182577 My 3 day old son wad removed from my custody due to me and my boyfriends drug abuse in Feb of 2011. Since then I have been to inpatient rehab, been clean for 5 months and hopefully getting my baby back in 2 months. I live with my boyfriend who has completed an outpatient program but has relapsed 5 times since completing it. I found our that I was pregnant while I was in rehab. So today I am 7 and 1/2 months pregnant. I try to be supportive and stay strong thru his relapses but it is becoming difficult. I cant leave our house because I need it to get my baby back. I don't dare turn back to drugs because this nightmare will start all over again with my new baby and I will not let that happen. But if he gets caught he will not be able to be around the children unsupervised. I dont want it to get to this point and cant find any other ways to express the severity of this to him. His selfishness for the drug clouds his judgement fit the wellbeing of his children. I wish he would wake up. I care for my babies. Why cant he? Venting in FL My 3 day old son wad removed from my custody due to me and my boyfriends drug abuse in Feb of 2011. Since then I have been to inpatient rehab, been clean for 5 months and hopefully getting my baby back in 2 months. I live with my boyfriend who has completed an outpatient program but has relapsed 5 times since completing it.

I found our that I was pregnant while I was in rehab. So today I am 7 and 1/2 months pregnant.

I try to be supportive and stay strong thru his relapses but it is becoming difficult.
I cant leave our house because I need it to get my baby back.

I don’t dare turn back to drugs because this nightmare will start all over again with my new baby and I will not let that happen. But if he gets caught he will not be able to be around the children unsupervised.

I dont want it to get to this point and cant find any other ways to express the severity of this to him. His selfishness for the drug clouds his judgement fit the wellbeing of his children.

I wish he would wake up. I care for my babies. Why cant he?

Venting in FL

]]> By: AJ http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182566 AJ Fri, 18 May 2012 06:06:29 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182566 For those of you with loved ones hooked on any drugs. Give them an ultimatum. Go to rehab voluntarily or involuntarily, your choice. Check into something called the marchment act or similar in your area. Call a rehab center first. I did this with our adult son, who desperately needed help. I gave him no other choice but rehab, the easy way or the hard way. I advised him I had already found a rehab (out of state) and spoken to a lawyer. I advised him you can get on a plane in the morning or appear in court and a judge will order you into rehab. Choose something out of state, far from the fellow drug users they know. It is important to have that distance so they can't just call a friend to come get them. By the way technically he is my step son. He resented me at first, but through therapy realized that I loved him dearly. He got the help he needed and has been clean for 2+ years. Sometimes your loved one needs you to make the decision for them when they are too weak to make that choice on their own. For those of you with loved ones hooked on any drugs. Give them an ultimatum. Go to rehab voluntarily or involuntarily, your choice. Check into something called the marchment act or similar in your area. Call a rehab center first. I did this with our adult son, who desperately needed help. I gave him no other choice but rehab, the easy way or the hard way. I advised him I had already found a rehab (out of state) and spoken to a lawyer. I advised him you can get on a plane in the morning or appear in court and a judge will order you into rehab. Choose something out of state, far from the fellow drug users they know. It is important to have that distance so they can’t just call a friend to come get them. By the way technically he is my step son. He resented me at first, but through therapy realized that I loved him dearly. He got the help he needed and has been clean for 2+ years. Sometimes your loved one needs you to make the decision for them when they are too weak to make that choice on their own.

]]> By: julie http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182558 julie Tue, 15 May 2012 05:49:33 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182558 I need out I have .2 kids idk what to do Im lost confused I'm scared he is gonna kill him self I pray for help I need out I have .2 kids idk what to do Im lost confused I’m scared he is gonna kill him self I pray for help

]]> By: J http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182556 J Mon, 14 May 2012 03:25:25 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182556 My advice to anyone trying to quit is too keep busy. Do things that keep your mind active to keep your mind off of doing the drug. It is hard at first, but it is doable. My advice to anyone trying to quit is too keep busy. Do things that keep your mind active to keep your mind off of doing the drug. It is hard at first, but it is doable.

]]> By: J http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182555 J Mon, 14 May 2012 03:22:03 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182555 I'm a recovered social crack addict of 5.5+ years clean from doing it 2.5 years doing it on and off. Know this, I did not do it on a regular basis. It was more of 3 week difference where my roommates and I would buy a gram and split it. Sometimes twice or more a week, but I was usually working night shift. It is truly possible to overcome this. I did it with my own will and minor help from the drug center 1 on 1. I've learned to play on my adrenaline that one could say I have stopped the drug, but I'm still mimicking it. I keep to myself mostly these days and on my free time I'm an online gamer - I could go pro if I want. I rarely go out in public unless its going to work, buy food, and etc. You could say that I may have gotten rid of the drugs, but the drugs still wear on me. It is noticeable in public as it did further damage to my nervous system than I already have. I’m a recovered social crack addict of 5.5+ years clean from doing it 2.5 years doing it on and off. Know this, I did not do it on a regular basis. It was more of 3 week difference where my roommates and I would buy a gram and split it. Sometimes twice or more a week, but I was usually working night shift. It is truly possible to overcome this. I did it with my own will and minor help from the drug center 1 on 1.

I’ve learned to play on my adrenaline that one could say I have stopped the drug, but I’m still mimicking it. I keep to myself mostly these days and on my free time I’m an online gamer – I could go pro if I want. I rarely go out in public unless its going to work, buy food, and etc. You could say that I may have gotten rid of the drugs, but the drugs still wear on me. It is noticeable in public as it did further damage to my nervous system
than I already have.

]]> By: GoodGirl don't know what to do http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182544 GoodGirl don't know what to do Wed, 09 May 2012 17:36:33 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182544 My Man of 2yrs Does Crack He put it in His weed,I did not Know This when met him. but now I know and It is not good He knows I don't Like It, So he Lies to me all the time. and when we have money for bills he comes and Get it when Iam sleep.I just don't know what to do, he is a good man when he's not on that. My Man of 2yrs Does Crack He put it in His weed,I did not Know This when met him. but now I know and It is not good He knows I don’t Like It, So he Lies to me all the time. and when we have money for bills he comes and Get it when Iam sleep.I just don’t know what to do, he is a good man when he’s not on that.

]]> By: Tonya http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182529 Tonya Tue, 01 May 2012 08:26:13 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182529 I am going threw this situation, my husbad has been on crack for 2 yrs. He can never come come with the money. He has been going threw rehab, just yhis 30 day shit, that is not workin and im goin crazy. My plan is to work over time save my money and leave. I have a son and I cant keep puttin him threw this. When my son does lackin I cannt do it no longer I am going threw this situation, my husbad has been on crack for 2 yrs. He can never come come with the money. He has been going threw rehab, just yhis 30 day shit, that is not workin and im goin crazy. My plan is to work over time save my money and leave. I have a son and I cant keep puttin him threw this. When my son does lackin I cannt do it no longer

]]> By: Brenda http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182527 Brenda Mon, 30 Apr 2012 21:35:37 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182527 I had my life together Had a nice 3 bedroom home nice car some money excellent credit THEN I met the most wonderful guy in the world We were with friends and a girl we did not know was getting some crack My bf ask if I ever did it I sd no I had never even knew anyone that did I still thought spiders and snakes that you hear about He sd he had did it once We decided to get some go hm and just relax together one time RIGHT I lost my home my credit ruined lost my car weighed 90lbs could barely walk 20 feet He had me so used to everything I went in horrible areas at 2am alone cant believe Im not dead or in prison I finally called a friend for help who was my real estate lady She helped me get my house now she was trying to sell it so I wouldnt have a foreclosure after she did all the repairs Holes in the walls Whole house had to be painted I lost everything alot to the pawn shops I dont think I was addicted I kept on smokeing cause I couldnt stand to think about what had happened to my life and it felt like I went to sleep and BOOM everything was ruined and so bad I could no way fix it Once I got away from it I never wanted it again I did smoke cig but now at 56 have sever enohazema and use oxygen 24 hrs a day Im sure the crack played a huge part in harming my lungs You can stop I di it for about a year almost every day I dont live near the are I lived in then and the idea of even going there scares me I doubt I ever do I would have never thiught all these drug dealers were so close to my home I had a nice home in a nice area with nice neighbors we had a church up the street most went to and we had Neighbor Hood Watch I lied and people who would give me money thinking they were helping me alot of friends I f I won the lottery First thing I would do is pay and apoligize to so many people I apoligize to god every night and thank him for helping me You can Stop Please do it Oh and by the way I saw way worse than the spiders and snakes I thought people saw I had some of the scariest times of my life It inly makes you feel good ONE time it will never do that again Dont wait till its too late my cousin works in a prison and when he saw me he ceied he sees this all the time and he said if I had did it one more time I would probabley be dead I made my bf mad but refused the last time said no Im done He sd I was ruining his evening I told him to leave and called for help I felt like I was going to die Please stop excuse my typeing skills I know there bad You can all do it The main thing get away from where you get it and anyone you were around remember each time you run out its horrible but it oasses just stop then its not bad you can do it if I did Good Luck Im not overly religous but will pray for God to help all of you taht want help I had my life together Had a nice 3 bedroom home nice car some money excellent credit THEN I met the most wonderful guy in the world We were with friends and a girl we did not know was getting some crack My bf ask if I ever did it I sd no I had never even knew anyone that did I still thought spiders and snakes that you hear about He sd he had did it once We decided to get some go hm and just relax together one time RIGHT I lost my home my credit ruined lost my car weighed 90lbs could barely walk 20 feet He had me so used to everything I went in horrible areas at 2am alone cant believe Im not dead or in prison I finally called a friend for help who was my real estate lady She helped me get my house now she was trying to sell it so I wouldnt have a foreclosure after she did all the repairs Holes in the walls Whole house had to be painted I lost everything alot to the pawn shops I dont think I was addicted I kept on smokeing cause I couldnt stand to think about what had happened to my life and it felt like I went to sleep and BOOM everything was ruined and so bad I could no way fix it Once I got away from it I never wanted it again I did smoke cig but now at 56 have sever enohazema and use oxygen 24 hrs a day Im sure the crack played a huge part in harming my lungs You can stop I di it for about a year almost every day I dont live near the are I lived in then and the idea of even going there scares me I doubt I ever do I would have never thiught all these drug dealers were so close to my home I had a nice home in a nice area with nice neighbors we had a church up the street most went to and we had Neighbor Hood Watch I lied and people who would give me money thinking they were helping me alot of friends I f I won the lottery First thing I would do is pay and apoligize to so many people I apoligize to god every night and thank him for helping me You can Stop Please do it Oh and by the way I saw way worse than the spiders and snakes I thought people saw I had some of the scariest times of my life It inly makes you feel good ONE time it will never do that again Dont wait till its too late my cousin works in a prison and when he saw me he ceied he sees this all the time and he said if I had did it one more time I would probabley be dead I made my bf mad but refused the last time said no Im done He sd I was ruining his evening I told him to leave and called for help I felt like I was going to die Please stop excuse my typeing skills I know there bad You can all do it The main thing get away from where you get it and anyone you were around remember each time you run out its horrible but it oasses just stop then its not bad you can do it if I did Good Luck Im not overly religous but will pray for God to help all of you taht want help

]]> By: Erica http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182525 Erica Sun, 29 Apr 2012 23:31:10 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182525 I am currently in love with a crackhead. We met when I was a Junior in high school. Then he smoked a little weed and drank but not around me. We were just friends I was in love with another guy do I thought. Anyway we maintained a friendship for a long time and one day he came by and I was in a drought and we slept together. I already loved him as a friend. This went on for a few years and then he came by shortly aftery mom died and I got pregnant. I later found out he was using and he had changed a lot. Unreliable, disappearing, and just not the same caring, sweet man I thought I knew. We tried to be together then he just left abandoned me and my son got another girl knocked up and was just a jerk. Well new years eve he returned, mind you this is six years later now, he is telling me all is good he is clean but back in January he stopped calling for about 2 and a half weeks he had been calling 2-3 times a week we would speak for and hour plus. I explained that in order to see his son he would need to be reliable and trustworthy and i wouldnt see him until May. Then one day i ran into him when he was getting off work and i gave him a ride home. After that i decided we could hang out and we did we had a good time at a park and talking. He didn't call for 4 days after that, strange. Then he called and we decided to hung out again it took him a week to call then we hung out again and made out a bit just kissing and hugging and such and he hasn't called it's been 10 days. We have not had sex at all and I turned him down because I told him he needs to provide a clean bill of health from a doctor before I go there because of his past not to mention I had an aids test in 2008 and haven't ha sex since and I love him but I lover more. He tolde he has had crack house sex and about bed bug and I refuse to give in and play roulette with my life because of love/ lust. I not sure things will ever be right but I think it is time to move on I told him I worry for him when we were together and that I wanted to hear from him so I know he is okay and he is basically saying f-u. He hasn't called or emailed nothing . Maybe he feels rejected but too bad. I am an intelligent, educated, sexy, attractive woman with many great qualities and I deserve more than an unreliable unstable crackhead regardless of whether he is in recovery. I do not want to live my life worrying about whether my man gave into his crack craving and whether I am going to come home and all of my stuff will be gone. I don't want to have to hide the money or valuables. Relationships are built on trust and can you ever really trust an addict? They are skilled liars and deceivers. My advice is to think carefully it's funny b/c I am a teacher as well in the inner city and I wonder if he were to ever show up at my job if any of the people/ parents would recognize him as the crackhead. I am currently in love with a crackhead. We met when I was a Junior in high school. Then he smoked a little weed and drank but not around me. We were just friends I was in love with another guy do I thought. Anyway we maintained a friendship for a long time and one day he came by and I was in a drought and we slept together. I already loved him as a friend. This went on for a few years and then he came by shortly aftery mom died and I got pregnant. I later found out he was using and he had changed a lot. Unreliable, disappearing, and just not the same caring, sweet man I thought I knew. We tried to be together then he just left abandoned me and my son got another girl knocked up and was just a jerk. Well new years eve he returned, mind you this is six years later now, he is telling me all is good he is clean but back in January he stopped calling for about 2 and a half weeks he had been calling 2-3 times a week we would speak for and hour plus. I explained that in order to see his son he would need to be reliable and trustworthy and i wouldnt see him until May. Then one day i ran into him when he was getting off work and i gave him a ride home. After that i decided we could hang out and we did we had a good time at a park and talking. He didn’t call for 4 days after that, strange. Then he called and we decided to hung out again it took him a week to call then we hung out again and made out a bit just kissing and hugging and such and he hasn’t called it’s been 10 days. We have not had sex at all and I turned him down because I told him he needs to provide a clean bill of health from a doctor before I go there because of his past not to mention I had an aids test in 2008 and haven’t ha sex since and I love him but I lover more. He tolde he has had crack house sex and about bed bug and I refuse to give in and play roulette with my life because of love/ lust. I not sure things will ever be right but I think it is time to move on I told him I worry for him when we were together and that I wanted to hear from him so I know he is okay and he is basically saying f-u. He hasn’t called or emailed nothing . Maybe he feels rejected but too bad. I am an intelligent, educated, sexy, attractive woman with many great qualities and I deserve more than an unreliable unstable crackhead regardless of whether he is in recovery. I do not want to live my life worrying about whether my man gave into his crack craving and whether I am going to come home and all of my stuff will be gone. I don’t want to have to hide the money or valuables. Relationships are built on trust and can you ever really trust an addict? They are skilled liars and deceivers. My advice is to think carefully it’s funny b/c I am a teacher as well in the inner city and I wonder if he were to ever show up at my job if any of the people/ parents would recognize him as the crackhead.

]]> By: Stacy http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/comment-page-5/#comment-182516 Stacy Sat, 28 Apr 2012 22:04:35 +0000 http://chosenfast.com/2007/06/12/the-7-stages-of-crack-cocaine-use/#comment-182516 I am a beloved and successful teacher, with a great kid who is entering a great college in the fall. I have friends who are wonderful and a family I love. I do not do drugs and barely drink anymore, and gave up cigarettes as well. I am however in love with a man who is an addict. He uses oxycotin & heroin regularly, Ativan too, and has had at least 3 full week crack binges in the past year (since meeting him). For the most part he is lucid, sweet and loving and attentive so long as he doesn't combine the drugs with alcohol. The crack binges, however, are scaring me to death. I haven't seen him in 5 days. The last time he came back from one he was so apologetic and convincing saying that he hates the drug so much and never wants to cave into it again. I have decided that if/when he returns I will not be with him unless he goes to rehab. I am so sad right now. I feel sort of suicidal at the thought of losing him. Can anyone advise me on how to not get weak when he turns up. We bonded originally because we are both adopted and i worry about his feeling abandoned. I have the same issues, so its close to my heart. I want to tell him, "I love you so much and i am not leaving you, I am waiting for you until you are ready to be healthy. Anyone else here ever fall in love with a heroin crack addict who actualy got help and changed? I am a beloved and successful teacher, with a great kid who is entering a great college in the fall. I have friends who are wonderful and a family I love. I do not do drugs and barely drink anymore, and gave up cigarettes as well. I am however in love with a man who is an addict. He uses oxycotin & heroin regularly, Ativan too, and has had at least 3 full week crack binges in the past year (since meeting him). For the most part he is lucid, sweet and loving and attentive so long as he doesn’t combine the drugs with alcohol. The crack binges, however, are scaring me to death. I haven’t seen him in 5 days. The last time he came back from one he was so apologetic and convincing saying that he hates the drug so much and never wants to cave into it again. I have decided that if/when he returns I will not be with him unless he goes to rehab. I am so sad right now. I feel sort of suicidal at the thought of losing him. Can anyone advise me on how to not get weak when he turns up. We bonded originally because we are both adopted and i worry about his feeling abandoned. I have the same issues, so its close to my heart. I want to tell him, “I love you so much and i am not leaving you, I am waiting for you until you are ready to be healthy. Anyone else here ever fall in love with a heroin crack addict who actualy got help and changed?

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