I have an uncle that sounds similar. I hope and pray that your brother will want to break free from his sin and bondage. I think of my uncle the same way. God Bless.
My brother has been homeless for the last eight years – I tried to help several times but the more I tried to help the more he stole from me and my family and in the end he always takes off and with whatever he can take.
Last night he phoned from the subway station (this is the first contact in 2 years) he had taken a bus in from another town, my husband and I picked him up and brought him to our home – he is now 30 years old and an alcoholic homeless man who uses Listerine to control the withdrawal seizures that he takes. The problem is I don’t have the money for a high end rehab facility that will intervene the situation and the detox centers available at no charge will not force him to stay there – and he does not want help. I am worried that my brother is lost forever and he will wind up with liver failure due to this disease – he left my home today to go downtown Toronto to find alcohol – I could not continue to administer it to him – my options were give him a bottle of booze and let him get drunk and irate and then we kick him out or let him go down town and find his booze and drink it down there – all options end up with him drinking alcohol on the streets living in shelters and never maintaining a normal life again. He did hold a stable job for 4 years after high school and is a high school graduate – he started smoking crack – lost his job and apartment and stole from everyone who tried to help. The Crack smoking turned into what ever substance that would ease the crack addiction and the alcohol is a result of whatever substance addiction he is now trying to quit which I believe he said is opium – he would be better of getting arrested and spending a year in jail to dry out or sober up – there is no help and this is a vicious cycle that he cannot get out of.
[...] This morning, those who are here are quiet. They look tired and pensive, their eyes staring off into the distance, seeing something that I can’t see. I wonder where they slept last night — and how much. I wonder what it’s like to wake up each day and have nowhere to go and nothing to do. [...]
[...] friend formerly homeless friend Tim dreams simple but big. He has what he needs now, and he’s focused on helping other people. He’s making progress, too. Go, [...]
“the ones who need help are the kids and the mentally ill.” Well if substance abuse doesn’t mean anything about mental illness, then what does it stand for? Does it stand by it self as a big or worst sin then the rest? I have to agree with Cara Michele, everyone needs help regardless how long they have been out there. There is always hope that the hardcore individuals will come out of their situation!
Beau, as always, thanks for commenting and sharing your perspective.
I must say that of the hundreds of homeless people I’ve met over the past eight or so years, I’ve yet to meet one who is “content” with his or her situation.
And I believe that we need to help everyone. But you probably already knew that.
1. somewhere to be
2. something to do
3. somebody who cares
4. to find or replace what was lost
What every homeless person needs, of course, but not necessarily what every homeless person wants to work to achieve. The obvious common denominator of the homeless is that, indeed, they are homeless. But that aside I can line up 10 homeless people and each will have a different tale to tell. They will tell you how they want to straighten up thier life but if you were to give them 20 bucks the very first place they would head to would be the crack dealer. The homeless that have been on the streets for years are hard core veterans and are almost content with thier plight in life, the ones you need to get help for are the young kids and the mentally ill.
February 17th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Dear Liz,
I have an uncle that sounds similar. I hope and pray that your brother will want to break free from his sin and bondage. I think of my uncle the same way. God Bless.
January 1st, 2009 at 4:57 pm
My brother has been homeless for the last eight years – I tried to help several times but the more I tried to help the more he stole from me and my family and in the end he always takes off and with whatever he can take.
Last night he phoned from the subway station (this is the first contact in 2 years) he had taken a bus in from another town, my husband and I picked him up and brought him to our home – he is now 30 years old and an alcoholic homeless man who uses Listerine to control the withdrawal seizures that he takes. The problem is I don’t have the money for a high end rehab facility that will intervene the situation and the detox centers available at no charge will not force him to stay there – and he does not want help. I am worried that my brother is lost forever and he will wind up with liver failure due to this disease – he left my home today to go downtown Toronto to find alcohol – I could not continue to administer it to him – my options were give him a bottle of booze and let him get drunk and irate and then we kick him out or let him go down town and find his booze and drink it down there – all options end up with him drinking alcohol on the streets living in shelters and never maintaining a normal life again. He did hold a stable job for 4 years after high school and is a high school graduate – he started smoking crack – lost his job and apartment and stole from everyone who tried to help. The Crack smoking turned into what ever substance that would ease the crack addiction and the alcohol is a result of whatever substance addiction he is now trying to quit which I believe he said is opium – he would be better of getting arrested and spending a year in jail to dry out or sober up – there is no help and this is a vicious cycle that he cannot get out of.
December 2nd, 2008 at 11:22 am
i hear that a lot. i’ve yet to see it be that simple.
December 2nd, 2008 at 11:19 am
some people became homeless for poor decisions.(quote of a homeless person)
September 8th, 2008 at 9:17 am
[...] This morning, those who are here are quiet. They look tired and pensive, their eyes staring off into the distance, seeing something that I can’t see. I wonder where they slept last night — and how much. I wonder what it’s like to wake up each day and have nowhere to go and nothing to do. [...]
August 5th, 2008 at 10:25 pm
[...] friend formerly homeless friend Tim dreams simple but big. He has what he needs now, and he’s focused on helping other people. He’s making progress, too. Go, [...]
April 4th, 2008 at 2:33 pm
LV’s right. Never stop hoping. People do get better. This I know.
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:24 am
“the ones who need help are the kids and the mentally ill.” Well if substance abuse doesn’t mean anything about mental illness, then what does it stand for? Does it stand by it self as a big or worst sin then the rest? I have to agree with Cara Michele, everyone needs help regardless how long they have been out there. There is always hope that the hardcore individuals will come out of their situation!
April 1st, 2008 at 4:09 pm
Beau, as always, thanks for commenting and sharing your perspective.
I must say that of the hundreds of homeless people I’ve met over the past eight or so years, I’ve yet to meet one who is “content” with his or her situation.
And I believe that we need to help everyone. But you probably already knew that.
April 1st, 2008 at 3:47 pm
What every homeless person needs, of course, but not necessarily what every homeless person wants to work to achieve. The obvious common denominator of the homeless is that, indeed, they are homeless. But that aside I can line up 10 homeless people and each will have a different tale to tell. They will tell you how they want to straighten up thier life but if you were to give them 20 bucks the very first place they would head to would be the crack dealer. The homeless that have been on the streets for years are hard core veterans and are almost content with thier plight in life, the ones you need to get help for are the young kids and the mentally ill.
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